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Anonymous asked: What is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it?


Answer:

middleclassreject:

dysonrules:

aconissa:

50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.

It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.

While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.

Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it. 

It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.

REBLOG FOREVER.

Boycott this fucking movie, for the love of god. These kinds of ideas are dangerous and set us back as a society

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npr:

topherchris:


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We all need to disconnect sometimes. Get outside this weekend!

– Alexander

npr:

topherchris:

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We all need to disconnect sometimes. Get outside this weekend!

– Alexander

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usagimaree:

gobeautiful:

thelatestkate:

my therapist taught me to start thinking of my anxiety as my panicky friend
it’s working???

this is so cute omg

Woah this is super useful!!

usagimaree:

gobeautiful:

thelatestkate:

my therapist taught me to start thinking of my anxiety as my panicky friend

it’s working???

this is so cute omg

Woah this is super useful!!

(via anulamou)

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"Darkness cannot drive out darkness: only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate: only love can do that."
Martin Luther King Jr., A Testament of Hope: The Essential Writings and Speeches (via silly-luv)

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nyamennwunamawu:

Never discredit your gut instinct. You’re not being paranoid. Your body can pick up vibrations, some better than others, and if something deep inside you says something’s not right about a person or situation, trust it and keep it pushing. 

(via haleyponyou)

— 2 days ago with 82330 notes

bravedad:

i wonder how many people i’m in the “i’d be down if you asked” zone with

As I get older I’m realizing that is really all it takes… Have sex because you ask for it… Not because you think you should or whatever.

(via haleyponyou)

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Too many insecurities. Also to much thinking.

Too many insecurities. Also to much thinking.

(Source: selfharmaddictiont, via heyitsfluff)

— 3 days ago with 900 notes
niikkzart:

dope


This kind of how I feel…

niikkzart:

dope

This kind of how I feel…

(via thisistheeventhorizon)

— 3 days ago with 1744 notes